Wednesday, January 28th, 2015

How to manifest a new career

may your choices reflect your hopes not your fears

From Air Hostess to  Career Counsellor

Angela is 41 and a single parent of two young daughters. At the time she came to see me she was working as an air hostess, a job she had been doing for over ten years. She was feeling stressed by the shift work and her inability to care for her daughters as much as she liked. Her self-esteem and confidence were also suffering. She had been adopted and never felt she had achieved anything significant in her life. This was especially the case when she compared herself to her siblings who had done well academically.

The desire for a better future for herself and her daughters spurred her on to make some dramatic changes. “I went back to school and retrained to be a counsellor because I wanted to do something different and to truly help people. I wanted to be a specialist but I didn’t feel like I had any skills because I had only been an air hostess for the last ten years.”

Helping Angela to visualise her preferred future was an important step in preparing her for the challenges of going back to study as a mature student. “I am nearly finished my diploma now and so many times I felt like giving up. My vision for the life I want both myself and my children to have has helped keep me on track. And I have surprised myself with how well I am doing academically. I’m feeling nervous but excited about what the future holds,“ she told me recently.

I reminded her that she is the creator or her future and that as she nears the end of her study now is the time to revisit her life and career goals. Together we agreed that the following strategies would help her stay on track as she moved toward her preferred future:

•   Write her ideal job description, including hours of work (flexible and part time so she could drop off and pick up her children from school); benefits – including ongoing training; work environment – supportive and friendly

•   Updating her passion journal and dream board with inspiring pictures, quotes, affirmations, feedback, and looking at it daily to keep her passion alive

•   Continuing to gain work experience in the industry of her choice and cultivating helpful networks and alliances

•   Setting mini regular goals to break her future goals down and planning out each day

•   Scheduling ‘me time’ and looking after herself, including using stress management techniques

•  Talking to people who are already living her dream and asking her way to success

•   Collecting positive feedback and surrounding herself with positive role models

•   Actively working on building and maintaining high self-esteem and confidence, including actively challenging her fears and unhelpful beliefs such as “I’ll never be able to find the perfect job,”and “Nobody will hire me when I am finished studying.”

Happily Angela found a full-time job working for a family- friendly, government agency, providing career transition support services for the unemployed.

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